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November 12, 2020 by Kristi Hopkins 1 Comment

Adoption Awareness Month

Today is Isabella’s 10th birthday which appropriately falls in Adoption Awareness month. I always wonder if her birth mother thinks about her on this day. Does she wonder where she is? Does she look at each little girl she passes wondering? Is she curious about how she has grown? Does she wonder if they have the same eyes?  I can not imagine the pain and despair she must have felt when she gave up her baby daughter. And yet, I am beyond grateful. I would love to be able to hug her and whisper, “our daughter is loved.” And she is so very, very loved. Our family was not complete until we had this bouncing, joyous, VERY TALKATIVE child. In all honesty, our family would be very boring without her. The following are statements straight from Bella just so you can enjoy her as well. 

  • Fog is really just sleeping clouds.
  • The Cowboys are my favorite team. They aren’t great, but they are good. 
  • I AM SOAKING COLD!
  • What in the planet?!?! 
  • I forgot to hold up my other finger to make the peace sign. (she actually held up a number one)
  • Social studies was so hard. I had to write sentences. Like teenage sentences that were long. 
  • I am going to hangronize my closet (a mix between organize and hanging)
  • I am conculating numbers. (while using a calculator)
  • I think I see the horse! Oh wait, that’s just a chicken. 
  • Do you have check-up for the french fries? ( aka ketchup)

And as I reflect over the last seven years with her, I would do it all again. I would hold this child as she screamed for her “other mother.” I would hug her as she shut down.  I would dry those tears and rejoice when they turned into a smile.  I won’t pretend it has been easy. But it is worth every bit of heartache because I have gotten to be Mommy to this sweet child. She lost everything and we gained it all. Please consider completing your family with one of the thousands of children waiting for their forever home. You may just end up getting sweet messages from your child like the one below. 

From Isabella this week

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February 28, 2018 by Kristi Hopkins 5 Comments

Feelings Bear

I’m not a fan of stuffed animals. I don’t really have a good reason other than that they seem to always be in the way. I’ve even been known to pass them off to other kids when my own children weren’t looking (don’t judge, I know you have done it too.) So you can imagine everyone’s surprise when I brought home a giant teddy bear. You know, the kind you see in movies, that is as big as a person. What would posses me to go against this uncalled for dislike of stuffed animals? My child needed it. And like any mom, we will do anything to help our children. When Isabella came to our home 4 and half years ago she rarely cried. If she was scared, hurt or upset, she would retreat into a little shell of a person showing no emotion and not moving for hours on end. I longed for the day that she would cry and tell us what was wrong. Months and months later, when those tears and anger came, I would wish for the silence again because boy can she cry… for hours. And then the anger began less frequent but more extreme. Little scratches on her face, pinching her legs, banging her head. It was hard to watch. And so, the giant bear was introduced and given the original name of “Feelings Bear.” He was placed on a mat in her room where she was free to express her anger. He is great at taking the beating. Isabella would sit in his lap and rage until she was ready to do her deep breathing exercises.  Sometimes after hearing crying for two consistent hours, I wondered if this “phase” would ever end or if we would hear fits for the rest of her life. But yesterday, she asked if she could give Feelings Bear away. The time has come that she doesn’t rage as often, although we still see tears a little more frequently than most 7 year olds. She no longer needs to hit something to get her anger out, or pull the bear’s fur. Isabella always expresses her emotions loudly. She laughs big, she hugs hard, she cries with her bottom lip sticking out and she wants everyone to know when she is angry. This may never change. I am not sure we want it to. It’s part of who she is. But just as God continues to mold me, as her mother, He is molding her into his character. He is using us to teach her appropriate times for anger and good ways to express this. Correction is never an easy process and we never seem to learn quickly but progress is so sweet when the journey has seemed long.

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May 31, 2016 by Kristi Hopkins 2 Comments

Never Ending Paperwork and Everlasting Love

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People say that Isabella is blessed to have been adopted but make no mistake, it us who has been blessed and gifted with this child. As I sit here watching my beautiful child sleep and worrying about our final appointment with the embassy tomorrow, I have peace. I have peace not that the appointment will go well (because it likely won’t) but a peace that only God can give. I have peace that there are hundreds of people praying for us right now. And I have peace that no matter what paperwork the embassy requires, this is my child, chosen and protected by God until he gave her to us almost 3 years ago. I knew it the moment I saw her. My child, with her wild hair in ponytails and her easy smile. My child, with the mischief in her eyes even when she is not causing mischief. My child with a squeal of laughter that all the neighbors can hear. My child with unmatched stubbornness. This child that God has blessed me with.

It is us who has been blessed and not the other way around. It has been said that adoption is the only trauma in the world where it’s victims are expected by the whole of society to be grateful. This is true of my child also. Isabella has lost two mothers in her short little life. She has a birthmother who cared enough about her to know that she couldn’t give her the best life. A women who wrapped her in a quilt before giving her up. A second mom who rocked her, feed her, wiped her tears and loved her for 3 years. She lost those moms and she never knew a dad existed before coming to our family. No, she has not been blessed but has lived through more tragedy than she deserves. But as I watch at my beautiful child, I am reminded of God’s greatness. He too has felt the tragedy she has lived through. He too felt her pain. And then he gave her to us to help her heal and to love her just as any mom loves. Regardless of how many more meeting we must go to our how much more paperwork we must get, I am her mom and am so very, very blessed to have this title.

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November 12, 2014 by Kristi Hopkins Leave a Comment

My Littlest Child

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Tomorrow will be Isabella’s 4th birthday. This marks 1 year and 7 weeks since she became my daughter. This year has been nothing like I thought it would be. She is a mess, that littlest child of mine. She has taught me so much in the last year that I wasn’t expecting to learn. I thought when we began this process that adoption was a beautiful thing and it is. It is a picture of us and our relationship with God. We were adopted into His family at a steep price. And so it is with every adoption. Without tragedy, there is no need for adoption. Adoption is an not easy thing. People say it is. You have probably seen the quotes about it on your Facebook page or Pintrest but I can assure you after living it, it is not easy. The paperwork alone is overwhelming at times but that is the easy part.  If it weren’t for pain then adoption would not be needed to begin with. We have no knowledge of Isabella’s birth mom but I can imagine why she gave her up. I can also imagine how hard that was for her. I am so very thankful for Mama Daisy who took my daughter in and was her mom for almost three years. But once again, I can imagine how hard it was for her to give her to us that day. And then comes our part of the story. Nothing could have prepared me for holding my screaming, kicking child that wants her other “Mama” or the pain of watching her mourn that mom. I watched all over again tonight. Isabella noticed a picture we have of her and Mama Daisy, her foster mom. She sat and stroked the picture while sitting on her bed. Her little voice full of sweetness “I want to see my mom, I want to hug my mom.”  This is just one part of adoption that is hard.

Before this year I thought I was patient. I was wrong. God apparently thought I needed the opportunity to become more patient. And so her put this bundle of joy in our lives. This little ball of smiles, laughter, and energy that can light up a room and then suddenly becomes a kicking screaming fit. I read other peoples blogs on adoption so I know this is normal and will pass one day… I am still waiting for that day. I asked Isabella one day if I loved her when she was screaming. She thought for a minute and shook her head no. Can you imagine? Can you imagine being unsure of your mom’s love? My daughter can. She has now lost two mothers in her short life. Why would she not question my love? Adoption comes with baggage that neither you or I will ever understand. There is a broken past with every adopted child and it leaves a  mark on them. I pray this scar will heal over time but until then I will continue to assure my littlest child that she loved.

I am not saying that regret any of the last year. All these tears and fits have brought us close. Something about going through a struggle together makes you cling to one another. And so each time one of these fits occur, they end in tights hugs of assurance and whispers of how much I love her and she loves me. Nothing melts my heart like when she pushes her sweaty nose against mine and says “I love you, Mama.” For weeks after she came into our family I didn’t have a name. And now I am her Mama. I wouldn’t trade any of this year for that.

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October 19, 2013 by Kristi Hopkins Leave a Comment

To The Lady She Calls Mama

I have been meaning to write this blog for some time now but as we come to the one month mark with our newest addition, I finally have been able to slow done enough to write it, so here it goes.  Most people, including my prior self, do not have to worry about their children’s previous relationships. The mom (and dad)  are the first relationship, the one who teaches how to love and be loved and they are in control of who has an influence in their child’s life.  However, with our new daughter this was not the case. I was not her first relationship and I had no control over who had been in her life prior nor been able to protect her from the ugly world.  There was another lady. A lady she calls Mama. I’ll admit the fleshly part of me felt torn between loving this person and being jealous of her… until I met her. Never have I been more grateful for a lady than this lady that my daughter calls Mama. She is in her late 60’s maybe early 70’s with a quiet spirt and a lot of wisdom. She has raised over 50 kids and then given then up to their forever homes. She told me it breaks her heart each time but that she is so happy to see them go to their moms and dads. She has children all across the globe; US, Honduras, Spain, and France are a few of the places she mentioned. Always getting the children as infants and then raising them until they are ready to be adopted, such as in our daughter’s case. She received our baby when she was 6 days old and gave her to us when Isabella was 2 years 10 months old. She got up around the clock to feed my baby, she held her hands as Isabella learned to walk and she taught her her first words. All these little milestones are left blank in our baby book since we were not there to witness them; however, each were watched and nourished with love and care by Mama. When we first met, she had prepared Isabella that her new mom and dad were coming and we were greeted at the door by the cutest black haired beauty who said, “Hola, Mama” and then tried to figure out who Mama was. Mama Daisy, as we now call her, sat and told me Isabella’s schedule, her likes and her dislikes, what size clothes she wore, etc.  I will admit that finding out about your child’s likes and dislikes from someone else is strange but I am thankful that she loved my child enough to know these things and that she wanted the transition to be smooth. She patiently answered all my questions and told me to call her anytime. She allowed Isabella to take her favorite baby doll so she would have it to sleep with. This may not seem like a big deal but most people that I talked to were able to take nothing from their foster homes, even the clothes the child was wearing must be returned. It is invaluable to be able to have a piece her childhood to keep and remember this part of her life and how very special her Mama Daisy was and is to her.
 I give a lot of credit to Mama Daisy for Isabella’s temperament and sweet nature.  I was terrified after IHNFA told us that Isabella was very close to her foster mom and that we should prepare for hard times.  This is not the news I thought I wanted to hear. However, like so many other things, God was in control. Like every new mother, I read all the books and scoured the internet for adoption blogs. All of this prepared me for the worst. I was prepared for a child who couldn’t bond, who would cry about food and not sleep, who would not want anything to do with her new parents and who had lived in a horrible place. What I got instead, was a little girl who loved her Mama dearly and still misses her but is very well adjusted and ready to love her new family. She eats anything put in front of her regardless of whether it is American or Honduran, she tells us when she is tired and goes to bed without a fight (weird right?), she  can’t get enough hugs in a day, she cries when corrected no matter how gentle our tone is, she LOVES her new siblings and her daddy and now has what the Hondurans laughingly call “Mamitis” (she is a mommies girl.) I know realize that this is all due to her relationship with her first mom and how close they were. Because our child had a great mom who showed her love and taught her to love, she was able to transfer that love to her new family.  This is not to say there have not been hard times, but overall she has adjusted great and is a very happy little girl. For this tenderhearted, laid back child I thank God and Mama Daisy, as I know they have both played a huge part in her life.  I had written in a previous blog that I wondered who was caring for my baby girl while she was not in our home. I now know, that for the last 2 years and 10 months, God placed her in the loving arms of a lady who will forever hold a place in our daughter’s heart (and mine). Thank you Mama Daisy for the love you gave my daughter and for pouring your time and energy into this very special little girl.
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